I've known that I was "different" my whole life. The other kids in school made it very clear that I was not like them... I didn't learn why I am the way I am until a few years ago when I was diagnosed with ADHD, and then autism a while later. Now, at 40, I'm trying to untangle the mess of my brain and learn how to live more authentically. Unmasking is difficult under the best of circumstances, but trying to do it at this age feels next to impossible sometimes.

I've been very open with people at work about the challenges I face every day, and while some of them are empathetic, I can tell that they don't understand what I'm going through. The ones who aren't empathetic look at me like I'm insane. I don't blame them for not being able to understand, but it does make it that much harder to discover and be my real self. I find myself slipping back into the mask without even thinking about it, and afterwards, when I realize what I've done, I feel gross about it. I'm trying really hard to be compassionate with myself, but some days it's nearly impossible not to feel like a castoff that society just doesn't care to understand.

And don't even get me started on neurotypical "communication"... You will never convince me that the neurodiverse crowd are the ones with communications issues. The more I embrace my neurodiversity, the more unbearable communicating with "them" becomes.

Aside from all of that, I've been discovering the kinky ways that my brain and body get turned on, and trying to find someone who "matches my freak" feels impossible. I'm very happy with my wife, but she is much more vanilla than I am, and has medical issues that prevent her from being as sexually active as she would like.

So, here I am, looking for a kink partner to share in the insanity. Feels kinda hopeless at this point. Thanks for letting me vent 🙂

Having CPTSD and ADHD sucks when trying to focus. Sometimes just having someone to rub my back to comfort and help me ground would be nice

Being in my treehouse is the best place for my anxiety to be mellowed

Thansk for accepting me into this group.
I’m autistic and a few weeks ago a consultant feels I’m ADHD , so I’m presuming the right to choose option in the U.K. as nhs waiting lists are extremely long ( 5years or more)

Anyone done right to chose for autism or adhd . Particularly interested in hearing from women seeking this diagnosis option , as women present differently in both conditions

Keen to see if anyone has explored body doubling before??? It is the one thing that truly grounds me and allows me to really focus on the task at hand. Sounds weird, but i kinda discovered this when I was with an ex, and she would often have a shower and then sit on her bed naked, leaning back on the head board of her bed and do some work on her laptop. I would often jump in the shower and then lay at the end of the bed and do a few finish up things on my laptop, while she was busy. Weird part was yes i loved seeing her naked body but i knew she had to get a few things done first, and that was kinda what allowed me to focus.... distracted by her naked body, but the mind didnt want to go anywhere else or think of 50 other things to do. It was happy to love the sense of contentment from hanging out naked together and it not always being about sex, and it all seemed to lead to me being able to focus and get my work done. I did explore this concept on line briefly with someone where we both worked from home but would simply set up video call nut not to stand in front and speak at each other..... was more like having a virtual flatmate and we would chat at times, but also do our thing. And yes we were both lovers of the home nudist concept and thats kinda again the key i think. Feed the dopamine....

I find people dont understand the concept or see how useful it is. Trying to explain it is difficult but there is something to it which I would love to find a female who may see what I am speaking about because I definitely want to explore it further and evolve the concept ... but the chance finding someone to explore it further is a tad more challenging for a bloke seeking a female .

Hi all. I was late diagnosed ADHD with suspected Autism, but still waiting to be assessed on that one. Learning I was neurodivergent has helped me to start to piece together a lot about my life. Why did I seem to feel different to others, why I struggled socially.
It also explained my desire to be seen naked, which I must assume came from wanting a dopamine hit! I put myself into some very silly (maybe dangerous) situations looking for that hit.
Anyway, nice to meet you all

Hello, I’m Lily. I’m autistic and definitely have some ADHD tendencies. I’m deeply sensitive and silly and can feel quite awkward. I recently started the process of removing my masks and standing in my neurodivergent power. It has been intense and difficult and beautiful and freeing.

Dating isn’t easy for me. I am so intense within it all. I struggle with being blatantly honest and a lot of people don’t appreciate that trait. I think I would be better off dating another neurodivergent individual, but it isn’t easy to find someone who matches my freak on top of that.

Anyhow, just wanted to say hi!

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I have ADHD (and am told I have some autistic tendencies)
I've thus far not met anyone IRL, but I do have interests I'm trying to explore if I could find the right person(s)

Hi. I have ADHD and have found that the dopmine hit from being spanked or whipped is a grat releif and quietens down the constant jumbe of ideas and thoughts. wish it could last longer. Anyone else have a similar experience?

OT question. Has someone of you already experience with these new ear plugs, that filter out background sounds, but leave voices clearly? Those are newly made for people with adhd & autism. I have very severe hearing problems, when there are any other sounds around me, to understand anything someone says. No filter....

Hello, thank you for accepting me into this group. I hope we will get along well.

Thanks for creating the group! Much appreciated!