Checking this out looking for submissive partner short r long term

Desires and Fantasies
I am happy and positive, with a healthy libido. My wife is the opposite.

In a couple years my offspring will be gone. I’m interested in bondage and checking this out for a short or long term connection. The short term being discrete.

I am a man that is often in work boots or tennis shoes. I own and can do dress shoes, but they are less comfortable:-)