Assertive yet submissive and no, that’s not a contradiction. It’s balance.
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It’s fire and softness coexisting side by side.
I will absolutely dominate you if you give me nothing to follow. Confident-ish. Intelligent. Independent. I know how to take care of myself, so am never going to blindly hand over trust or energy to a man who doesn’t deserve it. My independence is how I survive the world. My submission is how I feel safe, I know the rules, the structure. It's predictable, it means that I can rest within it whilst testing the structure from time to time.
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if you are truthful, respectful and grounded in the way that creates safety, not chaos and insecurity, I will submit, not out of weakness, but out of trust. Submission is a choice, not a default/starting position.
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I require a man who knows where he’s going. A man with purpose, with presence, with consistency. I don’t and won't respond to control, I respond to clarity. I’m not impressed by power plays or ego. I want connection. Emotional leadership. Mutual respect. A D/s relationship starts with each party having equal power else, what power am I giving up when I surrender mine?
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I will not follow a man who doesn’t value my mind, my heart, my soul. I will not shrink just to make you feel big. But I will soften, let my guard down, and become the biggest cheerleader you’ve ever known. I just need to feel safe enough to show that side.
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I don’t need a man to control me. I need a man who knows how to lead, without loosing myself in the process.
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Pseudo Dom's
Fuckboi's
People who lack awareness or respect re consent
People who lack respect re boundaries/limits
People who are rigid in their thoughts about D/s