Went to my first munch in January 2015 and since then I've had the most wonderful time. Mainly ‘top’/dom (but also like to switch occasionally), big 'western' bondage fan (I love the look of shibari but it's a bit of a faff sometimes) but into other kinds of restraint as well – straps, cuffs, chains, etc. I wouldn’t describe myself as a ‘dom’ – and certainly not a ‘master’ – this whole thing has to be an equal exploration of the things we both enjoy. Keen to explore other kinks – hard limits poo, vomit, blood (well, maybe the odd scratch), kids & animals obviously.

I’m a proud member of the Kinkea troupe, the LAM crew, and I'm an ambassador for the mighty ClubDVS. I recently quit Behind Closed Doors (London’s kinkiest band) – I was the bass player but I just couldn't get 'into' the music. I also help run a couple of munches - North London Bowling Social and Perves In The park.

I have made some wonderful kinky friends in the past couple of years and nowadays my vanilla social life is virtually non-existent – but that suits me fine.

Middle-aged adolescent. Left wing ex-hippy feminist sapiophile. Musician, writer. Divorced with two kids (14 & 18) who live with their mum. Living in a kinky house share with @IMightAlsoBe, @Aperlaaq and @ShinyPanther. I work for a software company, doing sales, documentation (a bit anal about grammar & spellinx) and training. Was a professional musician for several years, have also been a chef and a mental health worker/therapist.

To be honest, I don't have any kind of concrete goal at the moment - I'm really enjoying the journey. I'd just like to be making it with someone, even if only for a few stops. I don't know if I'm ready - emotionally or anything else - to make a long term commitment just yet, but I would like a serious (=mono?) play partner.

Desires and Fantasies
Hoping to meet a fun, bright, sparky, intelligent, creative woman with a sub (or switch) side that can also give as good as she gets. One woman, an equal, to play with, experiment with, tie up, tease and adore. Someone to make my life complete and help me make sense of the rest of it. And, ideally, live out the rest of my life with - I’m not really poly by nature despite a recent dabble in those waters.

I'm also hoping to meet play partners - check my photos for the sort of play I enjoy. I should say, at this point, that play means play. Could be sexy, could be not, could involve vibrators and other toys - but I don't 'fuck' or do 'casual sex'. For me, possibly because of my generation or because I still have some hangups in that area, actual PIV 'sex' holds little interest for me unless I have a pretty deep emotional connection with my partner. I don't do 'quick shags'.