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Beschreibung
ENFP.
Love languages: Touch and words of affirmation (aka praise whore, cuddle slut).
SUBMISSIVE.
Preferred age range 35-50ish
I have pinned a writing titled 'Possess Me Completely, Or Not At All' to the top of my FL writings detailing more of what I am looking for but please read my full profile first.
I am a woman of paradoxes - fiercely independent yet deeply submissive, endlessly curious yet grounded, playful yet profoundly intense. Imagine the humor of a 12-year-old boy meeting the wisdom of a sage, wrapped up in a whirlwind of passion, warmth, and depth. Somehow, I slipped into MENSA, yet I still can’t do my times tables or navigate a spreadsheet, and I’ve never dared to attempt Sudoku.
I thrive on connection, adventure, and deep intimacy. I’m equal parts joy, childlike wonder, and deep wisdom - someone who can ugly-cry at a classical concert just as easily as I can dance all night at a gig. I love fiercely, live boldly, and pour myself fully into the things that set my soul on fire.
I have poured a lot into my own personal growth, and I feel most alive around others who are committed to their own evolution. Entrepreneurial to the core, I run my own business and home-educate my two boys in a way that fills our days with curiosity, adventure, and laughter. My mission is to raise balanced young men with big hearts and free spirits.
What I'm Looking For
I am drawn to a man who is deeply grounded, self-assured, and present, a man who moves with confidence and integrity, who speaks with clarity, and who knows himself well. A true Dominant, not just in title, but in essence. Strength is not just about physical power; it’s about the quiet certainty of a man who knows how to hold space for a woman like me—a woman who is both fiery and tender, both playful and deeply loyal.
I desire a connection that is built on trust, depth, and polarity, a relationship where the dance of dominance and submission flows naturally, blending passion and companionship, intensity and ease. My heart longs for a man whose presence alone makes me melt, someone who sees beyond the surface and embraces all of me, from my giggly mischief to my deepest surrender.
Communication is everything to me. If you’re emotionally intelligent, secure in yourself, and capable of expressing your needs, desires, and boundaries, we’ll get along beautifully. If you struggle with avoidance or flakiness, we likely won’t be a good match.
The Energy Between Us
When we find each other, I will become the centre of your world, just as you will be the centre of mine. I crave a connection that feels like coming home, where I can let go, exhale, and trust in your leadership. I long to follow a man who knows where he's going, who holds his own power effortlessly and can hold me in my full depth.
I want someone who will hike mountains with me, watch sunsets, binge a box set, and share all the small, beautiful moments of life. Someone who understands that submission is not weakness, but a gift - a deep surrender that comes only when trust has been built.
I am all in or nothing at all. If you’re a man who thrives on emotional depth, who is secure in his masculinity, and who desires not just a submissive, but a partner, a best friend, a lover, then we may just be a match.
Kink and Intimacy
I am deeply submissive, drawn to the kind of power exchange that feels primal, electric, and deeply connected. My submission is not given lightly, but when it is earned, it is absolute.
My kinks lean toward the sensual and psychological - power exchange, bondage, teasing, ##Einige Wörter (z. B. Kontaktdaten oder unerwünschte Begriffe) stehen auf unserer Blacklist. Wenn ihr solche Wörter verwendet, werden sie automatisch durch diesen Hinweis ersetzt.## deprivation, primal play, deep connection, and a slow, intoxicating build-up. I crave a lover who can take me on a journey, who understands that the most powerful dominance is not about , but about presence, control, and unwavering certainty.
I am not into , , or objectification - I long to be cherished, not broken. I desire a partner who sees me as the prize that I am - just as I will see him.
I love play that is fluid, organic, and deeply erotic rather than rigidly scripted. My submission is playful, teasing, and deeply devoted - I might giggle when I’m in trouble, but I love to be good and I am an unapologetic praise slut.
I do not switch. I won’t even kill a spider, so you’ve got no chance of me Domming you. I also have a preference for men who don’t switch either - not because I judge those who do, but because I believe the kind of Dominance I am looking for is something deeply ingrained, not something you can turn on and off.
Kink and sex are intertwined for me, but I love my intimacy to be deeply sensual rather than just mechanical. A recent lover once described a night with me as "the most schizophrenic sex I’ve ever had - in a good way." 😂 One moment, I want to be hunted and claimed with teeth and hands and primal intensity. The next, I want to be worshipped in slow, aching, intoxicating surrender.
I am not into long, boring impact scenes, hardcore masochism, or excessive objectification. My limits evolve, but if your world revolves around , fuck dolls, or non-monogamy, we probably aren’t a match. Daddies are a yes, age play is a no.
Final Note
- I am monogamous, so I am only looking for single, straight men who value exclusivity as much as I do.
- My preference is for men between 35-50 who live within a reasonable travelling distance from Shropshire, UK, as I want to build something real and consistent.
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If you send me unsolicited pictures of your anatomy, I will assume you have given consent for my besties to rate them.
May the odds be ever in your favour!
Grenzen
Watersports, poop, medical play, electro play. illegal and immoral things- kids, incest, etc
I have lots of soft limits - it just depends on how well I know you and where we are playing.
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ENFP.
Love languages: Touch and words of affirmation (aka praise whore, cuddle slut).
SUBMISSIVE.
Preferred age range 35-50ish
I have pinned a writing titled 'Possess Me Completely, Or Not At All' to the top of my FL writings detailing more of what I am looking for but please read my full profile Weiterlesen… first.
I am a woman of paradoxes - fiercely independent yet deeply submissive, endlessly curious yet grounded, playful yet profoundly intense. Imagine the humor of a 12-year-old boy meeting the wisdom of a sage, wrapped up in a whirlwind of passion, warmth, and depth. Somehow, I slipped into MENSA, yet I still can’t do my times tables or navigate a spreadsheet, and I’ve never dared to attempt Sudoku.
I thrive on connection, adventure, and deep intimacy. I’m equal parts joy, childlike wonder, and deep wisdom - someone who can ugly-cry at a classical concert just as easily as I can dance all night at a gig. I love fiercely, live boldly, and pour myself fully into the things that set my soul on fire.
I have poured a lot into my own personal growth, and I feel most alive around others who are committed to their own evolution. Entrepreneurial to the core, I run my own business and home-educate my two boys in a way that fills our days with curiosity, adventure, and laughter. My mission is to raise balanced young men with big hearts and free spirits.
What I'm Looking For
I am drawn to a man who is deeply grounded, self-assured, and present, a man who moves with confidence and integrity, who speaks with clarity, and who knows himself well. A true Dominant, not just in title, but in essence. Strength is not just about physical power; it’s about the quiet certainty of a man who knows how to hold space for a woman like me—a woman who is both fiery and tender, both playful and deeply loyal.
I desire a connection that is built on trust, depth, and polarity, a relationship where the dance of dominance and submission flows naturally, blending passion and companionship, intensity and ease. My heart longs for a man whose presence alone makes me melt, someone who sees beyond the surface and embraces all of me, from my giggly mischief to my deepest surrender.
Communication is everything to me. If you’re emotionally intelligent, secure in yourself, and capable of expressing your needs, desires, and boundaries, we’ll get along beautifully. If you struggle with avoidance or flakiness, we likely won’t be a good match.
The Energy Between Us
When we find each other, I will become the centre of your world, just as you will be the centre of mine. I crave a connection that feels like coming home, where I can let go, exhale, and trust in your leadership. I long to follow a man who knows where he's going, who holds his own power effortlessly and can hold me in my full depth.
I want someone who will hike mountains with me, watch sunsets, binge a box set, and share all the small, beautiful moments of life. Someone who understands that submission is not weakness, but a gift - a deep surrender that comes only when trust has been built.
I am all in or nothing at all. If you’re a man who thrives on emotional depth, who is secure in his masculinity, and who desires not just a submissive, but a partner, a best friend, a lover, then we may just be a match.
Kink and Intimacy
I am deeply submissive, drawn to the kind of power exchange that feels primal, electric, and deeply connected. My submission is not given lightly, but when it is earned, it is absolute.
My kinks lean toward the sensual and psychological - power exchange, bondage, teasing, deprivation, primal play, deep connection, and a slow, intoxicating build-up. I crave a lover who can take me on a journey, who understands that the most powerful dominance is not about , but about presence, control, and unwavering certainty.
I am not into , , or objectification - I long to be cherished, not broken. I desire a partner who sees me as the prize that I am - just as I will see him.
I love play that is fluid, organic, and deeply erotic rather than rigidly scripted. My submission is playful, teasing, and deeply devoted - I might giggle when I’m in trouble, but I love to be good and I am an unapologetic praise slut.
I do not switch. I won’t even kill a spider, so you’ve got no chance of me Domming you. I also have a preference for men who don’t switch either - not because I judge those who do, but because I believe the kind of Dominance I am looking for is something deeply ingrained, not something you can turn on and off.
Kink and sex are intertwined for me, but I love my intimacy to be deeply sensual rather than just mechanical. A recent lover once described a night with me as "the most schizophrenic sex I’ve ever had - in a good way." 😂 One moment, I want to be hunted and claimed with teeth and hands and primal intensity. The next, I want to be worshipped in slow, aching, intoxicating surrender.
I am not into long, boring impact scenes, hardcore masochism, or excessive objectification. My limits evolve, but if your world revolves around , fuck dolls, or non-monogamy, we probably aren’t a match. Daddies are a yes, age play is a no.
Final Note***
I am monogamous, so I am only looking for single, straight men who value exclusivity as much as I do.
My preference is for men between 35-50 who live within a reasonable travelling distance from Shropshire, UK, as I want to build something real and consistent.
If you send me unsolicited pictures of your anatomy, I will assume you have given consent for my besties to rate them.
May the odds be ever in your favour!
Love languages: Touch and words of affirmation (aka praise whore, cuddle slut).
SUBMISSIVE.
Preferred age range 35-50ish
I have pinned a writing titled 'Possess Me Completely, Or Not At All' to the top of my FL writings detailing more of what I am looking for but please read my full profile Weiterlesen… first.
I am a woman of paradoxes - fiercely independent yet deeply submissive, endlessly curious yet grounded, playful yet profoundly intense. Imagine the humor of a 12-year-old boy meeting the wisdom of a sage, wrapped up in a whirlwind of passion, warmth, and depth. Somehow, I slipped into MENSA, yet I still can’t do my times tables or navigate a spreadsheet, and I’ve never dared to attempt Sudoku.
I thrive on connection, adventure, and deep intimacy. I’m equal parts joy, childlike wonder, and deep wisdom - someone who can ugly-cry at a classical concert just as easily as I can dance all night at a gig. I love fiercely, live boldly, and pour myself fully into the things that set my soul on fire.
I have poured a lot into my own personal growth, and I feel most alive around others who are committed to their own evolution. Entrepreneurial to the core, I run my own business and home-educate my two boys in a way that fills our days with curiosity, adventure, and laughter. My mission is to raise balanced young men with big hearts and free spirits.
What I'm Looking For
I am drawn to a man who is deeply grounded, self-assured, and present, a man who moves with confidence and integrity, who speaks with clarity, and who knows himself well. A true Dominant, not just in title, but in essence. Strength is not just about physical power; it’s about the quiet certainty of a man who knows how to hold space for a woman like me—a woman who is both fiery and tender, both playful and deeply loyal.
I desire a connection that is built on trust, depth, and polarity, a relationship where the dance of dominance and submission flows naturally, blending passion and companionship, intensity and ease. My heart longs for a man whose presence alone makes me melt, someone who sees beyond the surface and embraces all of me, from my giggly mischief to my deepest surrender.
Communication is everything to me. If you’re emotionally intelligent, secure in yourself, and capable of expressing your needs, desires, and boundaries, we’ll get along beautifully. If you struggle with avoidance or flakiness, we likely won’t be a good match.
The Energy Between Us
When we find each other, I will become the centre of your world, just as you will be the centre of mine. I crave a connection that feels like coming home, where I can let go, exhale, and trust in your leadership. I long to follow a man who knows where he's going, who holds his own power effortlessly and can hold me in my full depth.
I want someone who will hike mountains with me, watch sunsets, binge a box set, and share all the small, beautiful moments of life. Someone who understands that submission is not weakness, but a gift - a deep surrender that comes only when trust has been built.
I am all in or nothing at all. If you’re a man who thrives on emotional depth, who is secure in his masculinity, and who desires not just a submissive, but a partner, a best friend, a lover, then we may just be a match.
Kink and Intimacy
I am deeply submissive, drawn to the kind of power exchange that feels primal, electric, and deeply connected. My submission is not given lightly, but when it is earned, it is absolute.
My kinks lean toward the sensual and psychological - power exchange, bondage, teasing, deprivation, primal play, deep connection, and a slow, intoxicating build-up. I crave a lover who can take me on a journey, who understands that the most powerful dominance is not about , but about presence, control, and unwavering certainty.
I am not into , , or objectification - I long to be cherished, not broken. I desire a partner who sees me as the prize that I am - just as I will see him.
I love play that is fluid, organic, and deeply erotic rather than rigidly scripted. My submission is playful, teasing, and deeply devoted - I might giggle when I’m in trouble, but I love to be good and I am an unapologetic praise slut.
I do not switch. I won’t even kill a spider, so you’ve got no chance of me Domming you. I also have a preference for men who don’t switch either - not because I judge those who do, but because I believe the kind of Dominance I am looking for is something deeply ingrained, not something you can turn on and off.
Kink and sex are intertwined for me, but I love my intimacy to be deeply sensual rather than just mechanical. A recent lover once described a night with me as "the most schizophrenic sex I’ve ever had - in a good way." 😂 One moment, I want to be hunted and claimed with teeth and hands and primal intensity. The next, I want to be worshipped in slow, aching, intoxicating surrender.
I am not into long, boring impact scenes, hardcore masochism, or excessive objectification. My limits evolve, but if your world revolves around , fuck dolls, or non-monogamy, we probably aren’t a match. Daddies are a yes, age play is a no.
Final Note***
I am monogamous, so I am only looking for single, straight men who value exclusivity as much as I do.
My preference is for men between 35-50 who live within a reasonable travelling distance from Shropshire, UK, as I want to build something real and consistent.
If you send me unsolicited pictures of your anatomy, I will assume you have given consent for my besties to rate them.
May the odds be ever in your favour!
In the mood for strong arms around me and strong reminders that I am His prize and His Princess
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🔥 Possess Me Completely Or Not At All 🔥
You’ll know it’s me when I tilt my head up to meet your gaze, a playful glint in my eye, daring you to hold my stare a little longer. When I rest my cheek against your chest, sighing softly in that way I do when I finally let go. You’ll feel it when I Weiterlesen… slide my hand into yours, fingers lacing effortlessly, trusting the way you lead.
Life with me is never dull. You’ll wake to the scent of coffee, tangled limbs in soft sheets, my body curled into yours, utterly content—until I suddenly decide we should drive to the coast right now, because the sea is calling and I want to watch the waves with you. I’ll fill your world with adventure and mischief, unexpected road trips and stolen moments, making every mundane day feel like a story worth telling.
You are a man who takes care of himself—physically, mentally, and emotionally. You move with confidence because you’ve built strength—not just in your body, but in your mind and presence. When I look at you, I will see a man who commands a room effortlessly, not through arrogance or noise, but through sheer certainty. You are the kind of man who doesn’t hesitate—if you want something, you make it happen. There will be no question about whether you are available for me, no need to wonder if I’ll see you this week—you will simply show up, because that’s who you are.
We will spend nights wrapped in candlelight and conversation, curled up on the sofa where I’ll tuck my legs into your lap and demand your hands in my hair. I’ll ask you impossible questions about life, the universe, and your deepest thoughts—not just for the answers, but for the way your mind works. I crave depth, not small talk. Substance, not surface.
You’ll tease me for being a hopeless romantic, for ugly-crying over music that moves me, for the way I get lost in the moment, but you’ll love it too—because it makes life more vibrant.
You will see all of me.
The woman who laughs easily and loves hard.
The woman who is both fiercely independent and utterly submissive.
The woman who will stand beside you in the world and kneel before you in private.
I’ll match your fire with my own, push back when it’s needed, and melt when you demand it. You will own me without caging me. Guide me without controlling me. I will be your peace and your fire, your softness and your storm.
We will explore together. Not just in kink, but in life. Hiking through forests, getting lost in hidden trails, my fingers trailing over moss-covered rocks as you watch me, knowing full well I’m about to push my luck just to make you chase me down and put me in my place.
When we go out together, I will feel your possession in every glance, every protective hand at the small of my back, every low murmur in my ear. You won’t need to make a show of dominance—your presence alone will command respect. You will be the kind of man whose quiet confidence makes it clear that I belong to you. But it will never come from insecurity, never from ***—because a man like you has nothing to prove. When we walk into a room, you will own me, but you will never need to control me.
We will go to events together—not just because I love the community, but because we are a team. You will hold space for me, just as I will for you. I will revel in the feeling of being at your side, knowing that your presence alone makes me feel safe and claimed, yet utterly free.
The D/s dynamic between us won’t be a role—it will be an extension of who we are. It will be woven into every touch, every glance, every unspoken command. You’ll take my chin between your fingers, tilt my face to yours, and I’ll soften for you instantly. You will claim me without ever having to say the words.
And when we come home at the end of the day, when the world slows and we are simply us, you will have a woman who is truly yours.
Because I love with abandon, give with my whole heart, and devote myself completely to the man who proves himself worthy.
If you are strong enough to hold me, deep enough to match me, and wise enough to cherish me—then you are exactly who I’ve been waiting for and you’ll know exactly what to do next.
You’ll know it’s me when I tilt my head up to meet your gaze, a playful glint in my eye, daring you to hold my stare a little longer. When I rest my cheek against your chest, sighing softly in that way I do when I finally let go. You’ll feel it when I Weiterlesen… slide my hand into yours, fingers lacing effortlessly, trusting the way you lead.
Life with me is never dull. You’ll wake to the scent of coffee, tangled limbs in soft sheets, my body curled into yours, utterly content—until I suddenly decide we should drive to the coast right now, because the sea is calling and I want to watch the waves with you. I’ll fill your world with adventure and mischief, unexpected road trips and stolen moments, making every mundane day feel like a story worth telling.
You are a man who takes care of himself—physically, mentally, and emotionally. You move with confidence because you’ve built strength—not just in your body, but in your mind and presence. When I look at you, I will see a man who commands a room effortlessly, not through arrogance or noise, but through sheer certainty. You are the kind of man who doesn’t hesitate—if you want something, you make it happen. There will be no question about whether you are available for me, no need to wonder if I’ll see you this week—you will simply show up, because that’s who you are.
We will spend nights wrapped in candlelight and conversation, curled up on the sofa where I’ll tuck my legs into your lap and demand your hands in my hair. I’ll ask you impossible questions about life, the universe, and your deepest thoughts—not just for the answers, but for the way your mind works. I crave depth, not small talk. Substance, not surface.
You’ll tease me for being a hopeless romantic, for ugly-crying over music that moves me, for the way I get lost in the moment, but you’ll love it too—because it makes life more vibrant.
You will see all of me.
The woman who laughs easily and loves hard.
The woman who is both fiercely independent and utterly submissive.
The woman who will stand beside you in the world and kneel before you in private.
I’ll match your fire with my own, push back when it’s needed, and melt when you demand it. You will own me without caging me. Guide me without controlling me. I will be your peace and your fire, your softness and your storm.
We will explore together. Not just in kink, but in life. Hiking through forests, getting lost in hidden trails, my fingers trailing over moss-covered rocks as you watch me, knowing full well I’m about to push my luck just to make you chase me down and put me in my place.
When we go out together, I will feel your possession in every glance, every protective hand at the small of my back, every low murmur in my ear. You won’t need to make a show of dominance—your presence alone will command respect. You will be the kind of man whose quiet confidence makes it clear that I belong to you. But it will never come from insecurity, never from ***—because a man like you has nothing to prove. When we walk into a room, you will own me, but you will never need to control me.
We will go to events together—not just because I love the community, but because we are a team. You will hold space for me, just as I will for you. I will revel in the feeling of being at your side, knowing that your presence alone makes me feel safe and claimed, yet utterly free.
The D/s dynamic between us won’t be a role—it will be an extension of who we are. It will be woven into every touch, every glance, every unspoken command. You’ll take my chin between your fingers, tilt my face to yours, and I’ll soften for you instantly. You will claim me without ever having to say the words.
And when we come home at the end of the day, when the world slows and we are simply us, you will have a woman who is truly yours.
Because I love with abandon, give with my whole heart, and devote myself completely to the man who proves himself worthy.
If you are strong enough to hold me, deep enough to match me, and wise enough to cherish me—then you are exactly who I’ve been waiting for and you’ll know exactly what to do next.
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Watersports, poop, medical play, electro play. illegal and immoral things- kids, incest, etc
I have lots of soft limits - it just depends on how well I know you and where we are playing.
I have lots of soft limits - it just depends on how well I know you and where we are playing.
I am actively and intentionally seeking a Dominant partner. I’m not here browsing or time wasting. I hold my men to the same high standards as I hold myself so if you read my bio and like the sound of it please do make contact. If it’s clear you haven’t read my bio/criteria I won’t respond so as Weiterlesen…
not to waste my time or yours.
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If you’ve wanked over my images on here I definitely deserve a valentines gift. Just saying..
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Learning to Read the Room in Online Dating....
Ladies, when it comes to dating…. Let them show you who they are. Below are my observations and personal opinions on dating as a CIS Het woman seeking CIS Het men. Scroll to the bottom for some questions to help you with your bio.
I know I’m not Weiterlesen… the only person here who struggles to ‘lean back into the feminine’ and be in her receiving energy. If you’ve had a lifetime of struggle and lack of safety then the chances are this is a challenge for you too.
But the good news is that guys make it easy.
All you have to do is believe them.
Everything we do and say has intention behind it, it could be subconscious or conscious but grown adults make intentional choices, so lean back and learn to read the room.
Every profile picture tells a story, from the people who leave theirs blank to the dreaded crotch shot to a carefully thought-out picture that shows their eyes. All we have to do is learn to decode them. Blank photos, group shots where you can’t tell who you are supposed to be looking at, and photos in sunglasses all suggest a lack of confidence OR a lack of availability. I.e., they aren’t really available to date and shouldn’t be looking. The aggressive ‘mug shot’ style photo’s I would categorise with crotch shots. These guys are leading with aggression and hostility - they are showing you exactly who they are and these types of pictures carry with them an undertone of misogyny as far as I’m concerned.
Photo’s with a messy bedroom or bathroom with the seat up on the toilet - these are a no from me as well. A dating bio is a chance for you to put your best foot forward and this is theirs - no thank you.
Photo’s with other people in them… let’s start with ***. This is a huge red flag for me. I get what they are trying to portray but putting your kids on an internet dating site is a massive ick and risking their personal safety, not to mention their blatant disregard of consent. Personally, I have the same issue with explicit photo’s involving third parties too. This one is more complex; I get wanting to keep a record of stuff on a site like this so it’s not an immediate hard pass for me but if someone’s profile is just a bunch of close up photographs of them getting sucked off or with their dick in a hole it’s not giving me the Prince Charming vibes I am looking for - I’m not looking to be another hole to add to their photo collection.
So what are we looking for? Well, we want to see who someone is. Now, not everyone is great with a camera, and it’s ok to be shy. Maybe their pics don’t show their brightest, biggest smile, maybe they look a little awkward, maybe photography isn’t their thing. This is fine. There is a big difference between this, and what I describe in the previous paragraph. Ideally we want to see close ups of the face and eyes, no sunglasses, no hats, no vague group shots. I like pictures that show men out enjoying life - hiking, sailing, snowboarding, climbing etc are all a yes for me even though you generally can’t see faces in too much detail with these. Pub photos and fags hanging out of the mouth are a no from me but a picture of them sitting enjoying a coffee would be a yes.
Moving on, a blank bio is a no. Let them show you who they are. These men are showing you that they either lack the confidence and articulation to write a bio or they simply don’t care. I could probably write a thesis on the red flags that spring up in bio’s but let’s just pull out some big ones. The first one is the bio that comments on the fact that no one reads bios, or says something like “here’s the part where I have to sell myself to a bunch of people who don’t care”, or, “can’t wait to have an awkward conversation with you that goes nowhere”. These are a hard pass from me. I believe everything is energy, you get back what you put out and I don’t care for that negativity. I
It is important to approach dating with intentionality. We’ve all been burned, we’ve all had times we get jaded, we’ve all experienced the merry-go-round. If you feel jaded, get off the bus, take a break and then get back on when you feel more positive and intentional about it. Another hard pass for me is anyone who says they have no limits, this is a huge red flag for me. Even the most hardcore people I know have them so this cavalier nonchalance reeks of ignorance at best and potential consent violators at worst. I’m also not keen on lists of the types of people they don’t want. Now I have done this myself. Tired of the nonsense, I decided to be quite assertive in my bio for a time, but overall I still think negativity attracts negativity.
Ok, Ok, so what on earth do we want to see in a bio? We want to see who you are and what makes you tick. What are you looking for and what does being with you look like? What can you offer and what are you seeking? If you are a Dominant, what does submitting to you look like? If you are an entrepreneur, what does life with you look like? I recommend dreaming on paper and seeing what comes out. A dating bio is not the place to settle. What do you crave? What are your fantasies? What would you love to try with a future partner? Are you monogamous? Are you poly, are you looking to be a Master with a harem of slave women? Do you want to go out and be active on the scene or are you the behind closed doors type? What type of woman are you looking for? I don’t mean 5”5 red head with a D cup, I mean who is she? ***t a picture of what life with you looks like.
A word on learning styles…. Some people genuinely struggle to read big blocks of text and ironically it is often those same people for whom brevity doesn’t come easily. Acknowledge that your perfect match might have trouble reading a big thesis about you and bullet the main points at the top. This will save you a lot of time with mismatched conversations. I suggest bulleting things like age and location preference, your BDSM leaning such as D/s, Switch etc, and your relationship and sexual orientation.
Update, update, update - and often…. If you’re not moving, you’re not growing! Re-visit your profile monthly and edit it. Maybe you’re a bit clearer on what you do and don’t want, maybe you’ve decided you’re open to a play partner, maybe your sex menu has changed or your BDSM test results are slightly different. Keep it up to date and don’t assume folks will read all your writings. If you have made an update through a writing, link it in your profile or bullet it at the top.
I hope this helps, would love to hear your thoughts in the comments. Here are some questions you could work through to help you writing a bio, take what lands and leave the rest. I do also offer a profile writing service, DM me for that.
With love
Centralpark.
About You
-How would you describe your role or preference in the BDSM dynamic (e.g., Dominant, submissive, switch)?
-What qualities or values do you bring to a dynamic that make you unique?
-How did you first become interested in BDSM, and how has your journey evolved?
-What non-kink interests or hobbies would you like a partner to know about?
-Are there particular personality traits you admire or embody (e.g., nurturing, playful, strict)?
-Do you have a favourite way to unwind or spend downtime?
-What’s something you’re passionate about that lights you up outside of kink?
Your Kinks and Interests
-What are your favourite kinks, fetishes, or scenes that excite you most?
-Are there specific skills, dynamics, or experiences you excel in or want to explore further?
-How important is aftercare to you, and what does it look like in your ideal dynamic?
-Are there particular tools or toys you love using (or would love to try)?
-Do you prefer exploring BDSM in private, in the community, or both?
-How do you feel about rituals, rules, or structure in a dynamic?
What You’re Seeking
-Are you looking for casual play, a long-term dynamic, or something in between?
-What qualities do you value most in a potential partner (kink-related or not)?
-Are you open to teaching or mentoring, or do you prefer an experienced partner?
-Do you envision a specific power exchange structure, like a 24/7 dynamic or a playful weekend Dom/sub role?
-How important is compatibility in non-kink aspects of life (e.g., lifestyle, goals, family)?
-What’s the most exciting thing about connecting with someone in the BDSM world?
Communication and Boundaries
-How do you approach discussing limits, consent, and boundaries with a partner?
-What’s your preferred style of communication in and out of a scene (e.g., direct, playful, formal)?
-Do you have any hard limits or deal-breakers you’d want a potential partner to know upfront?
-How do you like to give and receive feedback about scenes or dynamics?
Just for Fun
-If you had to describe your ideal dynamic or play session in one sentence, what would it be?
-What’s a kink-related fantasy or dream you’d love to explore?
-Do you have a go-to song, movie, or book that resonates with your role or dynamic?
-What’s a fun or quirky fact about you that might surprise someone?
-If your personality were summed up in a safeword, what would it be and why?
Ladies, when it comes to dating…. Let them show you who they are. Below are my observations and personal opinions on dating as a CIS Het woman seeking CIS Het men. Scroll to the bottom for some questions to help you with your bio.
I know I’m not Weiterlesen… the only person here who struggles to ‘lean back into the feminine’ and be in her receiving energy. If you’ve had a lifetime of struggle and lack of safety then the chances are this is a challenge for you too.
But the good news is that guys make it easy.
All you have to do is believe them.
Everything we do and say has intention behind it, it could be subconscious or conscious but grown adults make intentional choices, so lean back and learn to read the room.
Every profile picture tells a story, from the people who leave theirs blank to the dreaded crotch shot to a carefully thought-out picture that shows their eyes. All we have to do is learn to decode them. Blank photos, group shots where you can’t tell who you are supposed to be looking at, and photos in sunglasses all suggest a lack of confidence OR a lack of availability. I.e., they aren’t really available to date and shouldn’t be looking. The aggressive ‘mug shot’ style photo’s I would categorise with crotch shots. These guys are leading with aggression and hostility - they are showing you exactly who they are and these types of pictures carry with them an undertone of misogyny as far as I’m concerned.
Photo’s with a messy bedroom or bathroom with the seat up on the toilet - these are a no from me as well. A dating bio is a chance for you to put your best foot forward and this is theirs - no thank you.
Photo’s with other people in them… let’s start with ***. This is a huge red flag for me. I get what they are trying to portray but putting your kids on an internet dating site is a massive ick and risking their personal safety, not to mention their blatant disregard of consent. Personally, I have the same issue with explicit photo’s involving third parties too. This one is more complex; I get wanting to keep a record of stuff on a site like this so it’s not an immediate hard pass for me but if someone’s profile is just a bunch of close up photographs of them getting sucked off or with their dick in a hole it’s not giving me the Prince Charming vibes I am looking for - I’m not looking to be another hole to add to their photo collection.
So what are we looking for? Well, we want to see who someone is. Now, not everyone is great with a camera, and it’s ok to be shy. Maybe their pics don’t show their brightest, biggest smile, maybe they look a little awkward, maybe photography isn’t their thing. This is fine. There is a big difference between this, and what I describe in the previous paragraph. Ideally we want to see close ups of the face and eyes, no sunglasses, no hats, no vague group shots. I like pictures that show men out enjoying life - hiking, sailing, snowboarding, climbing etc are all a yes for me even though you generally can’t see faces in too much detail with these. Pub photos and fags hanging out of the mouth are a no from me but a picture of them sitting enjoying a coffee would be a yes.
Moving on, a blank bio is a no. Let them show you who they are. These men are showing you that they either lack the confidence and articulation to write a bio or they simply don’t care. I could probably write a thesis on the red flags that spring up in bio’s but let’s just pull out some big ones. The first one is the bio that comments on the fact that no one reads bios, or says something like “here’s the part where I have to sell myself to a bunch of people who don’t care”, or, “can’t wait to have an awkward conversation with you that goes nowhere”. These are a hard pass from me. I believe everything is energy, you get back what you put out and I don’t care for that negativity. I
It is important to approach dating with intentionality. We’ve all been burned, we’ve all had times we get jaded, we’ve all experienced the merry-go-round. If you feel jaded, get off the bus, take a break and then get back on when you feel more positive and intentional about it. Another hard pass for me is anyone who says they have no limits, this is a huge red flag for me. Even the most hardcore people I know have them so this cavalier nonchalance reeks of ignorance at best and potential consent violators at worst. I’m also not keen on lists of the types of people they don’t want. Now I have done this myself. Tired of the nonsense, I decided to be quite assertive in my bio for a time, but overall I still think negativity attracts negativity.
Ok, Ok, so what on earth do we want to see in a bio? We want to see who you are and what makes you tick. What are you looking for and what does being with you look like? What can you offer and what are you seeking? If you are a Dominant, what does submitting to you look like? If you are an entrepreneur, what does life with you look like? I recommend dreaming on paper and seeing what comes out. A dating bio is not the place to settle. What do you crave? What are your fantasies? What would you love to try with a future partner? Are you monogamous? Are you poly, are you looking to be a Master with a harem of slave women? Do you want to go out and be active on the scene or are you the behind closed doors type? What type of woman are you looking for? I don’t mean 5”5 red head with a D cup, I mean who is she? ***t a picture of what life with you looks like.
A word on learning styles…. Some people genuinely struggle to read big blocks of text and ironically it is often those same people for whom brevity doesn’t come easily. Acknowledge that your perfect match might have trouble reading a big thesis about you and bullet the main points at the top. This will save you a lot of time with mismatched conversations. I suggest bulleting things like age and location preference, your BDSM leaning such as D/s, Switch etc, and your relationship and sexual orientation.
Update, update, update - and often…. If you’re not moving, you’re not growing! Re-visit your profile monthly and edit it. Maybe you’re a bit clearer on what you do and don’t want, maybe you’ve decided you’re open to a play partner, maybe your sex menu has changed or your BDSM test results are slightly different. Keep it up to date and don’t assume folks will read all your writings. If you have made an update through a writing, link it in your profile or bullet it at the top.
I hope this helps, would love to hear your thoughts in the comments. Here are some questions you could work through to help you writing a bio, take what lands and leave the rest. I do also offer a profile writing service, DM me for that.
With love
Centralpark.
About You
-How would you describe your role or preference in the BDSM dynamic (e.g., Dominant, submissive, switch)?
-What qualities or values do you bring to a dynamic that make you unique?
-How did you first become interested in BDSM, and how has your journey evolved?
-What non-kink interests or hobbies would you like a partner to know about?
-Are there particular personality traits you admire or embody (e.g., nurturing, playful, strict)?
-Do you have a favourite way to unwind or spend downtime?
-What’s something you’re passionate about that lights you up outside of kink?
Your Kinks and Interests
-What are your favourite kinks, fetishes, or scenes that excite you most?
-Are there specific skills, dynamics, or experiences you excel in or want to explore further?
-How important is aftercare to you, and what does it look like in your ideal dynamic?
-Are there particular tools or toys you love using (or would love to try)?
-Do you prefer exploring BDSM in private, in the community, or both?
-How do you feel about rituals, rules, or structure in a dynamic?
What You’re Seeking
-Are you looking for casual play, a long-term dynamic, or something in between?
-What qualities do you value most in a potential partner (kink-related or not)?
-Are you open to teaching or mentoring, or do you prefer an experienced partner?
-Do you envision a specific power exchange structure, like a 24/7 dynamic or a playful weekend Dom/sub role?
-How important is compatibility in non-kink aspects of life (e.g., lifestyle, goals, family)?
-What’s the most exciting thing about connecting with someone in the BDSM world?
Communication and Boundaries
-How do you approach discussing limits, consent, and boundaries with a partner?
-What’s your preferred style of communication in and out of a scene (e.g., direct, playful, formal)?
-Do you have any hard limits or deal-breakers you’d want a potential partner to know upfront?
-How do you like to give and receive feedback about scenes or dynamics?
Just for Fun
-If you had to describe your ideal dynamic or play session in one sentence, what would it be?
-What’s a kink-related fantasy or dream you’d love to explore?
-Do you have a go-to song, movie, or book that resonates with your role or dynamic?
-What’s a fun or quirky fact about you that might surprise someone?
-If your personality were summed up in a safeword, what would it be and why?
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I haven’t failed to notice the fact that several people recently have asked me exactly what it is I’m looking for..
Thanks for the prod, universe.
It’s difficult to have clarity when I’m so new to kink but I find myself stuck in a crevasse between kink and vanilla, overwhelmed by the former and Weiterlesen… too spicy for most guys I chat to from the latter.
So I’m going to day dream on ‘paper’ and see what comes out.. I’ll probably add to this over time..
I want to meet someone who:
Is a similar age (35-50 give or take). I’ve always done big age gaps and I’m over it.
Is local. I’m not averse to distance however I am short on free time and long distance rules out week nights spent together etc so would rather meet someone local. If you’re the perfect guy and you’re a little further away then we can talk and see how we’d approach this. For reference, I’m 1.5hrs from central Birmingham and Liverpool. This is ok but obviously not conducive to week night dating.
Takes care of themselves. I’ve invested a huge amount in my personal growth and physical health. I want to be with someone who has a growth mindset and keeps themselves somewhat in shape. Also, this isn’t essential but the outdoors is my soul food and if my lover was also into hiking that would make me very happy. Think of all the naughty games we could play whilst yomping in the hills!
Is either experienced or willing to learn. Sometimes I feel intimidated by very experienced guys - hi, imposter syndrome. Especially if they are on here and have a gallery full of pictures of them having sex with various women. But I’m wary of guys making out they know it all when in fact they don’t even understand the basics of consent- which is what I’ve repeatedly found with guys I’ve met on vanilla apps. I don’t mind someone new as long as they’re willing to learn properly and not use me as a test subject. I should also add- I’m a brand new submissive, I will make mistakes and have lots to learn, I don’t profess to be an expert.
Understands that I want to be part of the community and is happy to attend events and munches with me. At said munches and events he must handle himself with humility, confidence and respect, not approach socials being led by ego and using them as a dick measuring contest.
Has depth and intelligence. This is super important to me. I am deep as a well and a smart cookie. I don’t need to debate quantum physics with you but I can’t do surface level.
Is tactile and affectionate. I haven’t had a lot of affection in my life so I would love to feel loved.
Is monogamous. I want to be his prize possession, as he will be mine.
Is a family man. What do I mean by this? He doesn’t need to have *** and I’m certainly not looking for a father for mine, but I am a mother and I need him to understand and embrace this part of my life.
Wishlisting here but I think my ideal match probably runs his own business. Obviously this isn’t hugely important but I’m highly entrepreneurial and 9-5 workers just don’t get it in the same way.
Is open minded. We don’t have to share the same beliefs or leanings but I can’t be with someone who rubbishes my POV (in a nutshell, everything is energy and this belief is foundational to all my opinions on life).
Is about more than just sex. For me kink is 90% in the mind. I’m not into tools and gadget, I want to be seduced. Bondage etc is a lovely compliment to sex and seduction but I’m not and never will be a fuck doll. The right guy for me knows when to grab me, get primal, and fuck the demons away and when to make tender love. Both are equally as important.
Finally, as per my bio, I’m looking for a man who possesses the masculine qualities that must be inherent in being a Dominant. I’ve listed them there so I won’t repeat myself here. I’m INCREDIBLY bright and I need a strong, capable man, not a weak one. I’m a Capricorn too so, if you know, you know 😆🔥
So really I’m looking for a romantic relationship with a kinky twist. I think it is likely that as I gain experience “bedroom only” won’t be enough for me. I already know I like the rules and protocols found within D/s. But a dynamic only partnership isn’t the right thing for me either.
Thanks for the prod, universe.
It’s difficult to have clarity when I’m so new to kink but I find myself stuck in a crevasse between kink and vanilla, overwhelmed by the former and Weiterlesen… too spicy for most guys I chat to from the latter.
So I’m going to day dream on ‘paper’ and see what comes out.. I’ll probably add to this over time..
I want to meet someone who:
Is a similar age (35-50 give or take). I’ve always done big age gaps and I’m over it.
Is local. I’m not averse to distance however I am short on free time and long distance rules out week nights spent together etc so would rather meet someone local. If you’re the perfect guy and you’re a little further away then we can talk and see how we’d approach this. For reference, I’m 1.5hrs from central Birmingham and Liverpool. This is ok but obviously not conducive to week night dating.
Takes care of themselves. I’ve invested a huge amount in my personal growth and physical health. I want to be with someone who has a growth mindset and keeps themselves somewhat in shape. Also, this isn’t essential but the outdoors is my soul food and if my lover was also into hiking that would make me very happy. Think of all the naughty games we could play whilst yomping in the hills!
Is either experienced or willing to learn. Sometimes I feel intimidated by very experienced guys - hi, imposter syndrome. Especially if they are on here and have a gallery full of pictures of them having sex with various women. But I’m wary of guys making out they know it all when in fact they don’t even understand the basics of consent- which is what I’ve repeatedly found with guys I’ve met on vanilla apps. I don’t mind someone new as long as they’re willing to learn properly and not use me as a test subject. I should also add- I’m a brand new submissive, I will make mistakes and have lots to learn, I don’t profess to be an expert.
Understands that I want to be part of the community and is happy to attend events and munches with me. At said munches and events he must handle himself with humility, confidence and respect, not approach socials being led by ego and using them as a dick measuring contest.
Has depth and intelligence. This is super important to me. I am deep as a well and a smart cookie. I don’t need to debate quantum physics with you but I can’t do surface level.
Is tactile and affectionate. I haven’t had a lot of affection in my life so I would love to feel loved.
Is monogamous. I want to be his prize possession, as he will be mine.
Is a family man. What do I mean by this? He doesn’t need to have *** and I’m certainly not looking for a father for mine, but I am a mother and I need him to understand and embrace this part of my life.
Wishlisting here but I think my ideal match probably runs his own business. Obviously this isn’t hugely important but I’m highly entrepreneurial and 9-5 workers just don’t get it in the same way.
Is open minded. We don’t have to share the same beliefs or leanings but I can’t be with someone who rubbishes my POV (in a nutshell, everything is energy and this belief is foundational to all my opinions on life).
Is about more than just sex. For me kink is 90% in the mind. I’m not into tools and gadget, I want to be seduced. Bondage etc is a lovely compliment to sex and seduction but I’m not and never will be a fuck doll. The right guy for me knows when to grab me, get primal, and fuck the demons away and when to make tender love. Both are equally as important.
Finally, as per my bio, I’m looking for a man who possesses the masculine qualities that must be inherent in being a Dominant. I’ve listed them there so I won’t repeat myself here. I’m INCREDIBLY bright and I need a strong, capable man, not a weak one. I’m a Capricorn too so, if you know, you know 😆🔥
So really I’m looking for a romantic relationship with a kinky twist. I think it is likely that as I gain experience “bedroom only” won’t be enough for me. I already know I like the rules and protocols found within D/s. But a dynamic only partnership isn’t the right thing for me either.
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