Dates in Harlow

Hi, lovely to meet you.

I always find introductions a bit awkward, but here we go. I’ve been a submissive for nearly six years now—honestly it’s a little terrifying to write that out loud, and I’ll save the existential crisis that comes with it for another time. What it does mean is that I’ve had enough experience to know myself, what I want, and the kind of connection I’m hoping to build with someone.

Ideally, I’m looking for a female-led relationship—something built on trust, communication, and the kind of dynamic where power exchange enriches rather than replaces the relationship. That said, I’m completely open to exploring one-off play sessions if that’s more what you’re looking for going in. At this point, I’ll be honest: I’m a bit tired of the search. Dating in general can feel exhausting, and trying to find something meaningful as a submissive guy adds an extra layer of difficulty that can be pretty discouraging at times.

I won’t go too deep into kinks right here since that’s definitely a conversation better had in DMs, but my top five are bondage, ***d orgasms, face sitting, marking, and nipple play. These are the areas I naturally gravitate toward and where I feel most at home. I’m also curious about exploring more—like eventually losing my anal virginity at some point, though that’s definitely a discussion for later and not something I’m rushing into. I’m also very interested in trying hypnosis as a kink, particularly the kind that blends relaxation, surrender, and trust. At the end of the day, what I really want is the experience of losing control in a way that feels safe and cared for.

As far as preferences go, I don’t have a huge checklist of requirements. The most important things to me are that the person I’m talking to enjoys the kinds of dynamics and kinks I’m into and is roughly around my age. Chemistry is a two-way street, and it’s nice to know if we tick each other’s boxes.

Outside of kink, I’ve been told I have that “hyperactive golden retriever” energy. I’m passionate—sometimes overwhelmingly so—about the things I love. I recently finished my degree in game design, which has been a huge part of my life for the past few years. I play guitar, and I’m currently bartending while looking for a graduate job. I’m always drawn to people who have creative or nerdy interests of their own. In terms of music, I’m pretty flexible—anything from classic rock like The Beatles to heavier bands like Avenged Sevenfold sits firmly in my library.

At the end of the day, I’m looking for someone who cares, someone confident and commanding, someone who’s excited to take the lead. I’ve been in a few relationships where the dynamic expectations didn’t match, often with partners who were also submissive, and it just didn’t work. I’m hoping to finally find something that fits.

I’ve done plenty of online dynamic work, and I’ve had a couple of professional sessions, so if you’re wondering whether I know how to serve—yes, I do.

Thank you for reading. Please feel free to reach out in dms. I'll try to reply asap.
Have a wonderful day.