I'm truly happy we all get to be perverts together, lifting each other up from whatever circumstances. Everyone deserves respect and care, even if you want to feel like nothing - I'm happy to make you, but I respect you all the same.

I live in Amsterdam and have been training girls for 12 years. I only care for long-term, so if you're looking for NSA fun, I'm not your guy. I had long relationships with subs that were 99% online, but now I feel seeing each other at least sometimes is crucial, so let's be on the same continent.
I don't wear latex nor leather. I do have a few boxes of toys though.
You can see I'm married, to a tremendous person. We write sci-fi together and both work in tech. We have been running this open relationship for 14 years now, and it's giving us a lot of energy. Helga is also quite dominant, but shy (imagine). She's a massive voyeur, but I've had subs she never met, so this definitely isn't a requirement. We're both psychologists (I have an M.S., she - a PhD) and avid feminists. I think ds is very feminist. When an ex-sub called me to say she felt another Domme has pushed her boundaries, and she used what we practiced to communicate, and then stop and leave, I felt the most proud in my life.
I go to therapy, as anyone should, if they take responsibility for someone in a *** position. I prefer to move slowly than risk trauma.

For us. There are a few scenarios.

1. You want to be trained or mentored to become a sluttier version of yourself. I love this dynamic, people say I make them want to learn things. I'm a good teacher. Typically works best when you're younger, but I had a sub who was 10 years older than me as a student, it was great.
2. You want to be owned as a slave. I still need you to be a functioning human, but we're happy to host for 1-14 days at a time as a type of mental vacation for you, where you don't have to think, just be a sexual object and maybe perform other functions we agree on. I only do this with gradually increasing durations: a slave is most ***, so we need to build a great understanding first.
3. You want to film porn together. I'm only open to something niche - I think I can make a successful facial and/or exhibitionistic project, but your kinks are also very welcome. Art only happens when everyone has something to say

I don't make people bleed.
I don't work with "no-limits" subs