So welcome to my World! Firstly to just get this out of the way, I am a married ENM man, and we both fly separately on our journeys. Our connection is truly wonderful and filled with love and respect. If it wasn't for her, embracing this side of myself may have never happened, so for that I am eternally grateful! I'm looking to make friends, and hope that I can find a play partner along the way.

Now onto myself (the vanilla): I'm a kind and empathetic person, and love having all sorts of conversations. I can honestly chat until the cows come home (don't know whether that's a good thing but anyway). I love science/sci-fi, geek over things in enjoy, spending time outdoors (especially hiking), going to pubs/bars (have a thing for whisky), Motorsport fan and an out and out petrol head. Music is life to me and my taste is very eclectic. I love London and city life, but also escaping to the countryside to a nice cabin to forget the world. I'm an extroverted introvert, my personality type is INFJ-T and I'm an Aquarian just in case you wanted to know?

And the spice (yes, yes, I know. Vanilla is a spice too so don't get cocky ?). I have honestly never liked labels and just like what I like, which includes switching (although I am Dom leaning) and I do have a fetish.

My D side is aligned more to the sensual side of things and would class myself as a gentleman kinkster. Some people say that this isn't true domination as it's soft/light, but to them I say go do one and stay in your lane, we all have our own way. I love sensation play (oils, ice cubes, feathers, spanking, massaging etc), blindfolds, light bondage and things like that. I like getting into the mind of my partner to understand their like/dislikes so I can fully engage myself with them; it's all about energy and pleasure. This aspect is very important to me as without it, I find the experience a bit mute and mundane. I do also enjoy giving a bit of to balance out the pleasure and that sensation can be so so delicious. Now saying this I can also be quite primal especially when it comes to anal, which to be frank, I have an insatiable appetite for, rimming included (so if you're not into anal or at least seriously curious, then unfortunately I'm not for you). It really flicks the switch and brings out the in me (that's when the primal side of me comes out). I find it so istic and raw and love to push limits in that regard (training, stretching, gaping, pussy/clit denial etc). I also enjoy orgasm control, so denial//d and I like to praise, if you're good that is? I'm not a fan of high protocol submission, although I do expect a certain level of etiquette from my partner, and don't do 24/7 dynamics and keep play time to the bedroom (although teasing and winding up during the day can be so much fun, and builds so much anticipation for what's to come).

As for my s side. Sometimes I really don't want to think, and just let go and be told what to do and free my mind. My experience as a sub has been based more around servitude and worship, which works well for me especially considering that I have a butt fetish (which works well in both roles). I really do like to please, and thoroughly enjoy facesitting/queening and making my D happy so I can and fulfill her desires. I'm not masochistic and I don't enjoy being edged (due to an I had a while ago which can make it quite ***ful for me), so would love a Domme who is empathetic, sensual like me, and one who is patient to train me in what makes them happy.

Now with all this said, any kind of connection is about respect, trust, communication, and consent. Without these any relationship/dynamic/play is doomed to fail and someone will get hurt in one way or another. At the end of the day we are all here to enjoy ourselves, have fun and embrace the filth, so let's do it in the best way we can for mutual fulfillment.

I may not be the most experienced kinkster, but we all have so much to learn in this lifestyle and due to my curious nature, I am very open to different dynamics, but this can of course can be discussed if things go down that road . So please do reach out and let's chat, get to know each other as people first before anything else, and see what the future holds even if it's just as friends. I am very open and friendly so don't be shy in asking me anything, and look forward to meeting and learning more from this community.

I'm not into , gore, .