“There is something infantile in the presumption that somebody else has a responsibility to give your life meaning and point? The truly adult view, by contrast, is that our life is as meaningful, as full and as wonderful as we choose to make it.” - Richard Dawkins

“Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you.” - John-Paul Sartre

“If life were easy, it wouldn't be difficult.” - Kermit the Frog

Alpha, Daddy-Dom, Ethical Troublemaker.

People describe me as relentlessly positive, and I think that's what makes me different. Sure I can command, set rules, be strict, degrade, punish and a plethora of other delicously dominant things and though I mean every word of it, I've never been one to take myself too seriously. Means I'm super good at cheering people up!

I have a genuinely caring, supportive, nurturing personality, and am fiercely loyal/protective. I put a lot of love, effort and time into my partners and will fight, tooth and nail, for someone who matches that back too. I truly believe in an ownership dynamic, above and beyond that of just a d/s relationship so in that capacity, I have found that having a Puppy/Little is very much what I enjoy most as it has the ownership dynamic, but with lots of affection and care as well.

Sexually, I most definitely fit the descriptor "Primal". I am rough, I will take what I want, when I want, and Kink wise... you may as well consider me without limit there, with the caveat of as long as it's something you enjoy too. However crazy, weird and wild it is, if it gets you off, I'll do it (and I probably already have). Honestly in this regard I am not exaggerating, you can literally ask me anything, I'm an open book.

Things I like

• Good food and drink! I'm a massive foodie...
• Cooking, I'm pretty good too!
• Singing, Love going out for karaoke!
• Gaming! Board/cards/video/pc/roleplay, whatever!
• Music wise, I'm pretty open. I'm more of a rock/metal head at heart, but from hip hop to folk as long as it's got soul, I'm in.
• Adventures/exploring. I'm no good at being a couch potato.
• Tea. I am an absolute tea fiend. Black, no sugar.
• Travel! I go overseas a fair bit, with work and personally, I will never get enough of seeing the world! Always nice to bring someone with me too...
• I'm a huge animal lover, but doggos are my preference I think!
• Learning sciency things! I'm a bit of a geek.

• My Business. Put years of work into it, provides me with an amazing lifestyle, and I genuinely love what I do.
  
  Desires and Fantasies

  The Rules:

  There are two core rules and I expect my partners to follow both without exception.

  1- Never Lie

  2 - Always Try

  Of course more will be added on an individual basis, but these two will always remain immutable and the most important

  What I do:

• Make people laugh.
• Be affectionate and Kind
• Hold someone to what they say
• Put in real work and time to push and train a sub
• Give incredible snuggles
• Accept you for who you are, with all of your crazies and quirks
• Make mistakes, take responsibility for them and apologise if I do.
• Indulge in your kinks and fantasies, whatever they may be
• Give aftercare
• Be completely open and honest, in all things, to a fault
• Respect your boundaries, limits and beliefs
• Put your health (Mental, emotional, physical) above all else
• Set rules, but set them together.
• Have lots of messy, wild, kinky, passionate sex
• Have clear, unambiguous expectations
• Stick to one (very exceptionally two) partners at a time
• Always find loads of cool shit to do together to hang out
• Give you your own time and space when you need it
• Leave bite-marks

• A lot of Pastries

  What I don't:

• Judge: Your past, your kinks, your preferences, anything.
• Smoke, do drugs or get frequently drunk
• Cheat, lie, manipulate or omit truths
• Tolerate or bring drama/mental games
• Raise my tone or shout, literally ever. I do not lose my temper.
• Expect or want you to not have your own life
• Force someone in any way to do something they don't feel comfortable doing. (Though I have done CNC before, that being the exception)
• Switch or Sub, definitely never been my thing
• Look to save or rescue people. I'll support and care, but ultimately we're all responsible for keeping our shit together.
• Moan about things.
• Poly/open relationships

• Tinned Tuna

  The main kinks:

  DDLG/Petplay
  Of course, this was pretty obvious. To whatever level, whatever age/pet you associate with, everything to do with this I love. Absolutely no limits here on either of them, so go all out! - oh, and collars/tags are a huuuge thing for me too.
  A note on brats: Brats who like to push and test boundaries, to tease and sometimes just need to be put in their place will be handled well. Brats who like to try to mess with peoples emotions/take advantage will not like what I do to them. At all. Don't be a dick.
  Dirty Talk/Passion
  This is so important to me. The most vanilla of play showing real passion, I will enjoy so much more than the kinkiest night of emotionless sex. The most exciting thing you can do with your tongue, is to let all those dirty thoughts in your head spill off of it. I'm a little* bit demi-sexual this way.
  Scent/tactile Worship
  Honestly this is my biggest turn on, when a sub appreciates and enjoys her Dom's scent, taste, touch... because it's his. In terms of memory, our olfactory is the most powerful and reliable of our senses. Very much appeals to my primal side.
  Sadism/Masochism
  This is a real interesting area, and there are a thousand different ways to explore it. Everyone has their preferences; whether for punishment, stimulus, shock or just to show you can, it's something I'll always enjoy and can push quite a way but intelligently, carefully.
  Dressup/Roleplay
  Absolutely great fun. I want a whole wardrobe of dressup costumes! Roleplay online, in person, exploring outfits together, ears, tails, dresses... there are an almost infinite amount of possibilites and being able to express yourself in all these different ways and perspectives never gets old.
  Aggressive sex
  Not hate sex, just unrestrained primal passion; The hand prints on your ass, bite marks down your neck, scratches over your back, choking, hair-pulling, wet, messy, not asking just taking kind of sex that leaves you feeling -claimed-

  Limits:

  Other men
  Sorry all you gangbang/shared use fanatics, never been my thing. Plus side is you won't be sharing me either.
  
  indifferent/yes-doll partners
  I expect you to disagree sometimes, to challenge or ask questions. Any real Dom should be able to handle that. Sometimes you'll have to do things you don't want to/feel like, sometimes you'll be punished and it'll piss you off. That's okay too, I want you to have a personality and your own mind. What I don't like Is when someone pretends to enjoy something/agree, when they don't. It's breaking rule 1 and I'll see right through it. Note this is different to CNC, which I do have experience with and can enjoy with someone I trust/understand deeply.
  
  Smoking/drugs
  So I know this is something I'll never, ever want to be a part of my life or my relationships. Occasional weed I can be okay with, but that's the limit. I won't budge on this.

  What I'm looking for:

  
  Friends and Discourse
  As experienced as I am, there is always more to learn and new perspectives to see from, I love hearing from others as much as telling about myself, and I could do with a few more friends in the community I can talk to about these things.
  
  Long term partner
  This will always be my preference, and will always come first. Someone who shares my interests and kinks, or even doesn't but wants to learn, will follow my two rules and genuinely wants a rewarding, loving, healthy, seriously kinky, bdsm lifestyle relationship. Obviously this takes a fair amount of time to get to, but this is where I'm happiest.
  
  Short term play
  Okay so I'm single right now and relatively open to it, but it's not my priority and if you want that then it's not going to be about training, affection and development, it's going to be about indulgent, rough, dirty sex and nothing else. I'll still give aftercare and be kind, mind you... if you want it.

  Hope you enjoyed the little insight into my head! Feel free to message me if you want to talk or have questions or wish to dispute tinned tuna being unfit for human consumption. On a closing note:
  

  In my opinion in any healthy D/S relationship, the real control at the end of the day is with the Submissive. A dom can instruct, ask, command, tell, insist... but if it's healthy the one thing they can't do is actually force. No matter what's happened, the submissive can always refuse, and should be reminded of that and encouraged to if they really feel uncomfortable. If it's a healthy relationship, the sub is where the true control rests. Submission is earned and given not demanded or a right. That's what gives it value.