The Kink Me

Rather than immediately launch into a list of fetishes I should first say that kink for me is as much mental as physical, and I need a personal connection with someone to enjoy playing with them. For me dominance and submission are properties of the interaction between two people rather than roles you play. I particularly value the kind of submission that is rooted in a desire to please, service oriented submission.

Some kinks I particular enjoy are:
Power play / control - I love telling someone what to do, whether during play or in other contexts, for example dress or appearance.
Sadism - whether it seeing someone willingly suffer for you, or just being a little rough with slapping etc.
- from something as simple as name calling to something more akin to emotional sadism.
Service - kink doesn't have to be sexual and I also enjoy seeing acts of service.

As a dominant
I'm not a pleasure dom or service top but that doesn't mean I'm always rough or mean, I enjoy the contrast of the rough and the smooth. Think caressing your cheek and calling you a good girl, followed by a swift slap or spitting in your face. Or calling you humiliating names, but delivered in a sweet and affectionate way. But always finishing with plenty of cuddles and aftercare.

The Vanilla Me
I work in a technical field so outside that I like to be anything but. I love music, particularly electronic and classical but i have a wide taste and also occasionally a violin. I like going to art exhibitions, plays, getting out in nature and traveling to more adventurous places. I speak a bit of Russian, because who wants to learn easy useful languages after all.

What I'm looking for
The ideal would be a submissive woman with similar kinks, whom I also get on with as a human being, for a long term relationship. Until I find her though I'm also open to something a little more casual.

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