(This profile is best viewed if read while the song in the above YouTube embed [most recent status update] is played during.)

Lifestyle sadist, ethical predator, philosophical libertine.

"Cade", in Three Acts.

Three things you should know if I interest you: 1. I am a sadist, 2. I am polyamorous, and 3. I am for real. The following discourse will explain why these are important if you are interested in striking up a friendship with me. Above all else be aware that I value experience and truth, and am willing to prove my integrity. Trust is created for me through one's actions matching their words, and as such, must be built over time.

I'm a sadist. A sadist is someone that gains pleasure from pain, typically thru inflicting. That is no less true for myself, and I use mental exploits like humiliation and objectification, as well as, physical acts like caning and needle play or cutting. I enjoy bruises and welts, and tears turn me on intensely. Of course, I have strict safety rules for play and interactions, and am constantly looking to increase my experience and knowledge in risk assessment and other safety concerns/disciplines. I belong to a community of like-minded individuals which can provide my character references, both personal and professional...and I am a member of multiple groups that participate in spreading acceptance through education of alternative relationship dynamics. If you have questions about my fetishes or background in sadism, please feel free to ask.

I'm polyamorous. The literal definition for polyamory is "many loves", but I think it's better summed up as having the capacity to love and be loved by more than one person in an open and honest manner. As such, I would say it is important to know that I am in a relationship with two women, living with me. kitty is my slave, branded property as of May 4th, 2019 after seven years of training (and one year prior of consideration). she has proven her obedience and worth as a servant, and I am honored to have her in my life. das joined our dynamic in January 2021, and collared January 2024. I like to think I am a unique and exceptional individual, and know for sure the others in my relationship are...you will meet them if you prove yourself worthy and prospective enough that I might add you to our lives. Their safety is paramount.

I'm real. The points this outlines are not details of role playing or the way I dream of living my life; they are the actuality and truth of my existence. This is my lifestyle...I choose to live my life by alternative methods. My lifestyle identifies and honors each of our intrinsic values as dominants or submissives that threads through every aspect of life, in the vanilla world as much as the animal kingdom. After reading all this about me all I ask is that you don't judge me. I am as human as you are and am just trying to find happiness just like you. I will be tolerant and respectful of your life choices because you have to live by them, and my choices will never affect you unless you allow them. Thank you for reading through this, I hope it is helpful in deciding your level of interaction with me.

Having met a third potential submissive partner, I am currently polysaturated. It would be fair to say that I am without the extra time/energy/attention to attempt any intimate dynamic beyond friendship.

Forum Index

Topical Articles:

1. Clash in Kink-Positivity: Triggers versus Fetish;
   www.fetish.com/community/topic/1374-clash-in-kink-positivity-triggers-versus-fetish/
2. Community of Babel;
   www.fetish.com/community/topic/1440-community-of-babel/
   • (CoB) Labels are Your Friend, not Life Partner;
     www.fetish.com/community/topic/1461-cob-labels-are-your-friend-not-life-partner/
   • (CoB) Listen and Ask Questions;
     www.fetish.com/community/topic/1538-cob-listen-and-ask-questions/
3. EARN It: The Real Gift;
   www.fetish.com/topic/14592-earn-it-the-real-gift/
4. The Fallacy of "Easy" Submission (Or: Tiger Taming for Dummies);
   www.fetish.com/topic/15053-the-fallacy-of-easy-submission-or-tiger-taming-for-dummies/
5. I adore my lifestyle (but I abhor your community).;
   www.fetish.com/topic/14311-i-adore-my-lifestyle-but-i-abhor-your-community/
6. I'm a cruel, scary sadist, and you should avoid even talking to me! (Or, the Conundrum of Vanilla Understanding Enforced within the BDSM Realm.);
   www.fetish.com/topic/13957-im-a-cruel-scary-sadist-and-you-should-avoid-even-talking-to-me-or-the-conundrum-of-vanilla-understanding-enforced-within-the-bdsm-realm/
7. No Limits: Fact or Fiction (A Counterpoint);
   www.fetish.com/topic/13888-no-limits-fact-or-fiction-a-counterpoint/
8. PRE-CARE: Foreplay to Leather Sex;
   www.fetish.com/topic/74446-pre-care-foreplay-to-leather-sex/
9. The Secret of S/M;
   www.fetish.com/community/topic/5058-the-secret-of-sm/

10. Understanding Complex Consent Dynamics and CNC;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14091-understanding-complex-consent-dynamics-and-cnc/
    
    Tales:
    

11. Alice and Her Jabberwock;
    www.fetish.com/topic/73302-alice-and-her-jabberwock/
12. [CENSORED TITLE] (retitled as Hades and Persephone);
    www.fetish.com/topic/14107-hades-and-persephone/
13. The Crying Game;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1748-the-crying-game/
    • (CG) Round One;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1769-cg-round-one/
    • (CG) Round Two;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1793-cg-round-two/
    • (CG) Round Three;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1830-cg-round-three/
    • (CG) Round Four;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1954-cg-round-four/
14. Daughter of Suffering;
    www.fetish.com/topic/66671-daughter-of-suffering/
15. Day One;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14498-day-one/
16. Hot Box;
    www.fetish.com/topic/16860-hot-box/
17. "How I want you...";
    www.fetish.com/topic/14401-how-i-want-you/
18. A Night Out;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1586-a-night-out/
19. Objectification of a Vegetarian;
    www.fetish.com/topic/13939-objectification-of-a-vegetarian/
20. Sacre-licious;
    www.fetish.com/topic/13180-sacre-licious/
21. The Scorpion and the Frog;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14359-the-scorpion-and-the-frog/
22. The Shoe Shine Girl;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1364-the-shoe-shine-girl/
23. Third Person;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1393-third-person/
24. Trash;
    www.fetish.com/topic/63411-trash/
25. The Wolf and bunny;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1517-the-wolf-and-bunny/

26. "Yes";
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/
    
    Poetry:

27. Crux;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1550-crux/
28. "I know why she cries";
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1416-i-know-why-she-cries/