Update 5 November 2019:

I've been on this site for a while now, and I feel like I know a bit more about what I like and what I don't. Previously I had switch as my role, but I thought I had more sub in me than it turns out I do. Now, I have chosen TOP. My reasoning for this is because in the bedroom I definitely like to be in control. I want to be the one who causes the pleasure, and I like to do it via inflicting pain. This is the reason I do not pick SADIST. I like to inflict pain, sure, but I want to do it because my partner derives pleasure from it, a masochist. I think the word sadist would tend to mean I am deriving pleasure because someone else is in pain, but really I'm deriving pleasure because someone else finds the pain pleasurable. Hopefully I've explained that right.

What I am looking for:

I want to find a real meaningful relationship, perhaps my final lifetime relationship. If it so happens that I find that on this site, then perfect, because it's WAY easier to talk about bedroom stuff with someone I meet on this site than other conventional dating sites. That said, the relationship comes first, before sex and kink. So if I find the perfect woman, and the only thing lacking is the kink aspect, then I am willing to give up my kink interests.

I do still have a little bit of a switchy side, but it's not often. I would therefore prefer to find a switch woman with significant submissive tendencies. Distance, of course is always a problem. I am therefore open to an online relationship at first, but with the understanding that I do eventually want to make a long term relationship work in person.

Pics:

Anonymity is important to me. So, I do not have pics on my profile. If we talk for a while and things look to be going well, then pics will of course be shared. What do I look like? I am average height, short brown hair, clean shaven, and I am chubby, but that just means I cuddle way better than most.

If you've followed all of that and are still reading my profile, feel free to message me and see if we can hit it off. Happy hunting to all you kinksters out there!



Desires and Fantasies
I'd like to experience both dom and sub. basically the same scenario either way. The sub is tied down, maybe blindfolded, and the dom teases and plays with the sub in any way they desire. Nothing too intense, no blood or permanent marks or anything. I'd like to use toys and other implements, clamps, wax, etc.

Another fantasy I have is to get a remote controlled vibrator (Lovense) and go on a full-day date day, but I'm teasing her all day long with that vibrator. Then that night...see above.