I’m looking for a Dom, not a Daddy. Talk to me to find out who I am before having preconceived notions about who or how they think I should be. I am definitely funny and sweet, classy and dedicated, confident and definitive outside of the lifestyle, free thinking but live a conservative lifestyle outside of a dynamic. I have brat qualities with a side of sadistic.

A little over a year ago I found myself in a dynamic with someone abusive. Having been in this lifestyle for over 20 years I thought I’d recognize abuse if it ever happened to me. Looking back, what I have discovered is that it is much easier to see an abusive dynamic when it’s not your own. I was doing great, ready to begin the process of opening back up, when out of the blue he reached out in July and it brought me back to questioning myself and why he had gotten through my radar.

I have learned that I am going to require a Dom/Sadist who is willing to take the time to build that trust and be open to me seeking clarification and guidance whenever I begin to question myself once more. Where once I knew who I was implicitly, I now find myself a work in progress.

Unless you are funny, charming, engaging, and articulate on top of the qualities above, please don’t reach out because I will not engage.