I feel alive when there's some S&M in my life. Originally was a Sub, however it brought out the dominant side of me! I luv playing, teasing a woman, bringing her to the point of pleasure with the delight of pain. I'm always careful of limits. Trust is vital, afterall it should be joy for both. A sub may have their limits, but it's exciting working within those boundaries. watching her eyes widen, accepting the pain, bringing her closer to her reward.
However there are other parts to life, I have a teenage son (now that's challenging), enjoy music (new and retro) and a wide spread of arts and culture (hope that doesn't sound too poncy), and even the odd sport!
I can honestly say when I found the Fetish Clubs of London (TG, Submission, Rubber Ball, the Fetish Market amongst others) it was a game changer. The open honesty of people and their desires made flesh. Of the many moments, once at the Rubber Ball, an outsider asked my then current girlfriend if she would whip him. Well, I believe his teeth marks are still in the ceiling tiles! Lesson well learnt.
Vanilla does work, but it feels like a starter at the restaurant, and occasionally we can eat too much of the starter! Don't want to spoil the main course.
I enjoy playing with kinky minded souls, but couldn't do 24/7. When I play I want it to feel different, devilish. Get those endorphins ignited. one might say - 'Whip Crack Away!'.
no blood letting, scat, scarring.
soft limits: respecting the subs limits