I've been practicing BDSM since i was 18, so that's 35 years experience! Still a lot to learn though and i'm not conceited enough to think i know it all.
I've worked in a dungeon and mentored many new folk who were curious about the lifestyle.
I've a fairly broad range of activities and practices that I've experienced with past partners and might best be described as an "all rounder". I love old school D/s dynamics and the traditional activities such as over the knee spanks, caning, bondage, Teacher/student scenes, tasks & rewards etc
But I've always been one for experimenting and trying new things and I love learning what makes a partner tick and fulfilling their fantasies.
I've also experience with DD/lg, CNC, MedFet, petplay, ponyplay, outdoor scenes, secret-in-public, breathplay and many more activities.

Early Experience (1990-1997):

From the age of 18 I was a submissive to a succession of partners who were into the lifestyle.
Though in hindsight it's obvious I was often topping from the bottom at the time. I've since been Dominant for many years but will always be grateful for the personal development this period of exploration provided me. Thanks to these experiences I now have a particularly empathic insight into the head space and emotional state of a submissive partner during play as I've been there myself.

Making the switch (1998-2001)

Between '98 and '01 my then partner and I shared switch roles in our own dynamic. By 2001 I had mostly transitioned to being almost exclusively Dominant.

The Dungeon years (2000-2005)

From September 2000 I held progressively responsible roles in a professional dungeon beginning as on-site security and caretaker before progressing to assisting Mistresses in certain scenes and then advancing to mentoring couples in tutorial sessions.
Served as lead Safety & Security, maintaining a perfect safety record across many hours of operation.
Developed a comprehensive system for equipment maintenance, sanitation, and inventory control.
Acted as a key-holder and on-site reception, responsible for opening, closing, and securing the premises.
Provided direct support during sessions and private events, ensuring all client needs were met and safety rules were followed.
Tutored couples who were new to the lifestyle, introducing them to SSC, protocol, basics in bondage, impact play and role play before focusing attention on client's more personal interests.

Founder & Lead Mentor of House of M (2006-2010)

Founded and directed a private coaching collective focused on alternative relationship dynamics and personal empowerment.
Provided one-on-one and group coaching for a harem of 4 submissives, helping them navigate complex dynamics and improve communication and trust.
Developed and implemented personalized long-term development plans for their diverse individual desires.
Designed and led workshops on topics including negotiation, boundary setting, and building trust-based partnerships.
Planned and executed scenes that catered to each individual's specific interests.
Cultivated a strong community ethos, resulting in safe, sane and consensual group scenes.

Sabbatical (2010-2020)

Took a planned step back from the lifestyle to focus on family and career development whilst maintaining aspects of D/s play within the framework of an otherwise monogamous vanilla relationship.

Re-established The House of M (2020-2022)

Back by popular demand I managed a group of 3 submissives. Guiding their progress and catering to their desires.

The Monolithic Monocracy (2022-Present)

Shifted focus to specialise in one-on-one traditional and monogamous relationships.
I enjoy leading as a Dominant, now prefering to practice kinks and D/s dynamics within monogamous partnerships which can also emphasize the value of shared vanilla interests and teamwork.


Vanilla me: I run a busy and successful store in the city centre selling vintage and alternative clothes and accessories. Outside of my day job I do graphic design for bands and promoters and illustration for games. I practice photography. I like trekking off the beaten path and, weather permitting, wild swimming. I like old school games, where you bounce dice across a table, with real people. I love horror, fantasy and sci-fi, in art, literature and film. Anything vintage or alternative usually gets a thumbs up.

My limits are people who say they have "no limits" 😆
That might be a hot fantasy for them but here in the real world it's troubling that there are people out there with no risk awareness 😬